Tuesday, January 04, 2011

No Resolutions in 2011

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I know exactly how this LOLcat feels. I remember when one of my then preschool aged kidlets told me I looked like Gus-Gus (the fat mouse from Disney's Cinderella.) I knew I had 20 pounds of baby weight from the youngest still to lose then, but I was so devastated.

I ended up losing the weight (nearly 30 pounds) due to a diet I had to go on to keep nursing Rose. She had food intolerences which meant I ate a very limited diet. The weight seemed to melt off. I dropped down to a size four. What I wore in college.

I need to lose weight again. I know that limited diet would do it again. But diets (of any kind) are so hard for me. Doing it for my daughter years ago was easy because she still needed to nurse. Doing it for myself, then or now, not so much.

Pathetic, huh?

Which is one of the reasons I didn't post New Year resolutions for 2011. After two difficult years, I want to focus on successes, not failures. 2011 is going to be the year I take care of me. I want to keep things as simple as possible. Not adding on worries or stresses over trying to stick to a resolution that's supposed to "help" me. I want to feel energized, not dragged down by "need tos" or "shoulds."

I could afford to lose some weight, but instead of focusing on dieting I'm going to concentrate on eating healthier. My good friend Alison Thrasher (Irish Dress designer) told me about this book Eat This, Not That! 2011: Thousands of easy food swaps that can save you 10, 20, 30 pounds--or more!. There are a few different versions, but it's to help you make smarter food choices. That's something I can do and not feel like a failure if I don't lose that magic number of pounds by a certain date.

I've been looking at writing goals in a similar vein. Selling a certain number of books, making a bestseller list, winning an award this year would be nice, but those things are out of my control. All I can do is write the best book I'm capable of writing at the time, which is what I've been doing since I joined RWA over twenty years ago. Well, I suppose if I won the MegaMillions lottery tonight I could buy enough of my own books to put it on a bestseller list. But then again, I'd rather spend the money on something else (a vacation!) than to see my name on a list for a couple of weeks. It's not that important to me or I'd have become a promotion machine over the years. Instead, I suck at promotion and avoid it like the plague. If not for my friends at LASR, I wouldn't be doing any!

This year, I want to focus on what is in my control...the writing. I simply want to write in 2011. I'll still need to shoot for a daily word count due to deadlines, but that's all I want to be aiming for.

How about you? Did you make goals and/or resolutions for 2011?


Brandy said...

I haven't really made any resolutions for 2011. But, I have set goals for myself. I want to try and improve my photography and I want to lose at least five more pounds. I am not skinny. I will never, ever be skinny. My health suffers more when I am. (Weird, I know.)

I think your goal of eating healthier is more realistic than to diet. If you deprive yourself continuously then you won't be happy and it will be easier to give up. By making your goal more simple, you're sure to succeed. If you want to keep track of what you are eating (I had no idea I used to snack so much.) then you might light the LoseIt! app. It's free!

Best wishes your BOTH your goals this year! You can do it!

Marianne Arkins said...

My mom dropped thirty pounds by eating right ... she doesn't track calories or how much she eats. She used "Never be Fat Again" which is a fabulous eating plan, but you have to dramatically reduce or eliminate sugar (and other sweeteners) so don't know if you'd be up for it.

Should I jab you more about promo? That's my job. *G*

Have a fabulous 2011!!!

Dru said...

Good luck on both your goals.

I just checked and there is a 2011 edition of Eat This, Not That.

Melissa McClone said...

Thanks all!

I changed the link, Dru. Thanks so much. The new book is on sale. I ordered it! Thank you for letting me know.

Of course, jab me, Marianne. Or I'll do nothing! You know that by now! I'll have to check out that book your mom used. Not sure I'm ready for sugar free with a book to write. I consider chocolate one of the major food groups.

Good luck on your goals, Brandy!